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3o Tips to Adulting

  1. Life is NOT easy.
  2. You will fail.
    That’s okay — we‘ve all been there
  3. When in doubt bring a jacket.
  4. Doing something is better than doing nothing.
  5. Self-care is most important.
    Make it a priority
  6. Be PRESENT in the present moment.
  7. No one has all the answers.
    Nobody knows that they are doing
  8. It isn’t always about the destination.
  9. You grow into growing up.
  10. Sometimes life just happens.
  11. Mental health is nothing to be ashamed of.
  12. Learn to forgive.
  13. Your past made you
    But it doesn’t have to define who you are now.
  14. Smile everyday.
  15. Listening can be just as powerful as your words.
  16. Don’t go to bed angry.
  17. We are all alone.
  18. The days are long but the years are short.
  19. Plant your feet when you’re anxious.
  20. Get a hobby.
  21. Take pictures.
  22. It’s okay to be sad.
  23. Life isn’t fair.
  24. Be apart of something bigger.
  25. There is no trophy for finishing first.
  26. Not choosing is a choice.
  27. Take time for yourself.
  28. You can only change yourself.
    Stop trying to change others,
  29. It’s okay to not be in control.
  30. Budget not only your money but your time too.

Comment below with what you would add to the list. I’d love to add more.



A few weeks ago I wrote about Blurred Lines and Cabin Fever. I’d like to revisit the same sort of topic/theme. Why? Well, I went to the office today to pick up some supplies and realized how much I miss being in the office.

*gasp* But I thought you liked working from home!? You even said how much you enjoy making hot lunches and having no commute to work.

Let me be clear, I do thoroughly enjoy working from home. There are far too many benefits. Just to name a few: No commute, Pj pants, hot lunch, my cat, my own bathroom, no parking/traffic hassle, no office phone requests, etc…

Here’s what I really miss about working in the office. I miss being able to distinguish when I am working and when I am home relaxing. Often I feel compelled to work earlier or later than my normal working hours. Today, I have felt extra anxious about my work duties vs. home life. I believe this is the first sign that I need a staycation soon.

Perhaps, I’m feeling overworked because the lines are truly blurred as work seems to always be on my mind. I’m sure I can’t be the only one who feels this way or similar. Stay well folks.


Advice– Take some time to yourself to truly disconnect from work. Turn off your email notifications. Go outside. Most of all take care of yourself.

Day 16 | Cabin Fever

Here I am, day 16 and I believe cabin fever is setting in and there is no sign of when this house arrest will be over. My local officials extended the stay-at-home policy for another two weeks as they try to flatten the curve.

Meanwhile, those that do work from home (like myself), I’m sure care going stir crazy. An influx of emails, assisting coworkers on their needs meanwhile trying to find that balance of work life. Staring at the same walls its getting boring.

I’ve tried to see family when I can but I miss being in my actual work office vs. my make shift office, although I do enjoy my morning coffee and work outside on my back porch — quite peaceful to start my days.

Now below is my advice for combating Cabin Fever:

Go for a run. Exercise is always good. Getting fresh air is even better. Just be sure to keep your distance. I went for a run this morning — it was great!

Read a book. Nothing like diving into an alternate reality to escape the somber news we face each day. I’ve signed up for Kindle unlimited so I have a large selection of new reads.

Relax, take a bath. If you have a bathtub now is the time to use it! Just soak in the tub for a while trust me you’ll feel rejuvenated. Be sure to use Epson salt as it will help with your muscle aches.

Cook a new recipe. This will definitely give you a change in your routine of week night meals. Plus, if you have kids you can get them involved too!

Explore the world via Google maps/Earth. We might not physically be able/want to get out of the house right now due to COVID-19; however, we can explore the world using Google map/earth. It isn’t quite the same but hey at least its something!

‘Til Next Time


Day 12 | Close to home

This week my local health department posted a zip code break down of where the people who have tested positive live. Well folks, turns out my zip code is one of the higher rates of COVID-19 people. Now, there is a mandatory stay-at-home policy until April 14th. So, good news to you all, I get to continue the house arrest chronicles.

Yesterday, I went out for some essential supplies (a chair for my back porch is essential right?) Any who, when I arrived at my local Walmart it was like a scene from a movie or video game. Shopping carts and yellow caution tape were used as a barricade, like those used to steer animals in a one way direction. Once I got in the store, it was practically vacant which is not the normal. I saw people walking around with clear and blue gloves on and masks covering their nose and mouth.

I can no longer avoid the fact that I might not be safe anymore. With trees and flowers beginning to sprout (or is it spring), my allergies have made me question if I’ve got the virus or if its just pollen. I check my temperature when I feel unwell or show any symptoms related to the virus.

So far, I don’t think I have the virus. As more research is published, some people don’t even have symptoms and they test positive which I think is my biggest concern. I like many others don’t want to be the one to infect my loved ones.

Stay in, stay well. Wash your hands when you do go out and come back in. Most of all, listen to your local, state officials and not the viral mixed messages that could be spread on social media news feeds. Always check your facts before sharing.

‘Til next time.


Tips on Branching Out

Doing something out of the ordinary or routine can be a pretty scary feeling especially if you are placing yourself in a vulnerable position. This can be nerve racking. When I started this blog a year ago, my only goal was to produce as much poetry or writing I possibly could. In doing so I gained a following. I’m sure many of you are in the same boat I am, how do I continue to grow my following?

  1. Listen to your audience and stats. By doing this you are able to fine tune what content you produce gives you more views and followers.
  2. Make one change at a time. This is key in order to see if something is successful you must make one change at a time. Also, keep that one change in place for a month or two to see the effect it truly has on your audience.
  3. Redesign your website. If you are still fresh, why not redesign your entire interface. Visit your website and ask yourself what is it that you want your readers to pay attention to?
  4. Utilize social media. If you haven’t made any social media account specifically for your blog you are missing a huge opportunity. If something is good and easily available to share on social media, trust me it will spread.
  5. Contact other bloggers like yours. By reaching out to successful people within your genre of blogging you will be able to learn some new tips and tricks.

Here are some other changes that you may want to consider:

  • Making list posts
  • Starting a vlog on YouTube
  • Start a Podcast series
  • Give some advice
  • Encourage interaction with your readers
  • Always, always reply to messages and comments you receive (even if it is late)

I hope this has been somewhat insightful. Please let me know in the comments which tip was most helpful or what you are going to try next.

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5 Tips to Help Blog For 1 Year

1. Be Personal. Your readers are more likely to connect with you if you are personal with them. This also means being honest.

2. Use Categories and Tags. With every post you share you should have at least 1 category and 3 tags. By adding tags you are increasing your chances that your blog will be found by a variety of people

3. Get on a schedule. This will not only help yourself stay organized and keep your blog relevant in your wordpress followers feed this will also let your followers know when to expect your latest post. This can always be adjusted because unexpected events cannot be accounted for.

4. Be Active. In order to gain followers you must be a follower first. Believe in your work and people will find it and also believe in it as well. Join interest groups on Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest, Tumblr, etc…

5. Try something new. Don’t be afraid to branch out from your usual posts. Do you typically write serious articles? Why not try writing an article about odd things you see people do.

Bonus: Don’t Give Up. If blogging was easy than everyone would be succeeding at it. Stick with it even if you don’t get the traffic you really want at first, it is okay we all went through it.

Life Advice

A few nights ago, I was thinking about giving advice to my niece if she ever asked for any pertaining to life. After much thinking and rewriting I figured I would tell my niece that:  Kid, life is hard. You’ll fail at something, you’ll fall and bruise your knee, you’ll struggle internally with your own thoughts, you’ll have your heart broken, you’ll have bad days, and that is all okay. Take what you learned from the good things and bad and use those to build yourself up for a brighter tomorrow.
I then began to wonder how would other people answer the question. So, I asked a variety of people, If you had to give someone advice about life, what would you say? Here is what I got:
1. Life is a constant battle with trying to discover who you are and what you’re meant to do. There’s going to be a lot of struggles and challenges along the way but you learn from your mistakes and keep on  moving forward. There will be times you feel low and other son top of the world that’s just how it is. People as well as things come and go but it’s up to you to decide who you truly hold onto. There’s just so much to do and everything in a small way is a new accomplishment.
2. Don’t take everything too serious in life. Life is short so enjoy the fun things. Find love and make the best of it.
3. Learn and remember to love everyone.
4. Live life the way you want to and not what someone else says.
5. Take care of the little things in life.
6. Never give up.
7. Don’t trust everyone that comes along. Some people simply look out for themselves.
8. Enjoy what you have because there are some people out there that would give anything to have your life.
9. Take all the chances you can, spend all the time you can with those you love. Never miss those opportunities to make memories because one day that’s all you’ll have.
10. Stop being afraid to go out and try new things. This life only lasts so long and we spend to much time worrying about things we shouldn’t.
11. Carry on in everything. In life there are plenty of opportunities to stop being happy, step pushing yourself, stop trying to succeed. Just don’t stop. Keep the momentum going by carrying on. Don’t stop for anything.
12. Life hits hard a lot, mostly from within, and when it does remember whatever it was that made you smile just moments before or even yesterday. Continue to seize everything you’re worth in life.
13. You can’t force things to happen. Either it will happen or it won’t. Let it be.
14. Life is full of drama, emotions, mistakes, and other people. Take each moment as it comes your way.
15. The greatest lessons we ever learn in life starts with learning how to walk. In order to go places in life you’ve got to balance and keep moving forward. You are bound to fall just dust yourself off and get going again. The world awaits you.
16. Your actions will always speak louder than your words. If you are sorry, prove it. If you are happy, show it. If you need help, ask for it.
17. Never depend on someone else’s happiness for your own happiness. 90% of the time you will be disappointed.
18. You will have some dark periods in your life. You can either stay in the dark or learn how to shine the brightest.
19. Help those out when you can. You never know what they are able to do in return for you.
20. Sometimes the things we fear the most may be the thing we excel in. Through facing your fear you will gain courage.